Ignoring your guests may seem rude, but for your cat, it may be standard operating procedure. Be sure to give Fluffy a place to retreat to if your party gets too wild.
"Cats should be allowed the opportunity to hide," says Debbie Horwitz, a veterinarian and board-certified behavior specialist. She recommends planning ahead and equipping the "safe room" with food, water and, most importantly, a litter box. Eventually, your cat will need to eliminate, and you definitely want that to happen in the appropriate place!
Posting a note on the door to this room can't hurt, either. It's a thoughtful touch—for your guests and your cat—that lets people know there is a cat inside who doesn't want to be disturbed.
Take a Cat's Eye View
Above all, try to look at the situation from your cat's point of view. "If you think your pet doesn't want to be there, you're probably right," says Dr. Horwitz. And no matter how much your guests may love your cat, your cat doesn't have to love them back.
"There are always people who say, 'Oh animals love me, let me pet your cat.' But if you know your cat gets stressed by unfamiliar people—or by crowds or small children—don't give in to this," she says.
A note about allergies: Always let your guests know ahead of time that you have a cat, as one or more invitees may be allergic. Since there's really no way to get all the hair and dander out of your home, issuing a warning is just good host etiquette. This goes double for overnight guests.