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Don't reinforce negative behavior

Posted Sun, Jul 20, 2008, 9:38 pm PDT

A common mistake many people make when trying to train their cats is to reward the actual behavior they're trying to correct. Here are some examples.

  • If your cat is showing aggression and you attempt to soothe her by petting, the message she receives is that her behavior is acceptable because she received positive reinforcement. Use your voice to calm your cat or if possible, remove her from the situation (safely, of course), but don't fall into the trap of cooing, petting, and holding her in a way that says her behavior is acceptable.
  • Your cat wakes you up at the crack of dawn to get a jumpstart on breakfast. To quiet her, you drag yourself out of bed and put food in her bowl so you can get a few more hours' sleep. That extra sleep will cost you though because you've just taught your cat that the way to get what she wants is to repeat that exact behavior every morning.
  • Your cat may love strolling on the kitchen counter or other surfaces where you'd prefer she not go. As you pick her up, you might give her kisses, pet her, continue holding her, or talk sweetly to her before placing her back down on the floor. What's the message kitty received? Being on the counter means she's going to get lots of attention. If you want to remove her from the area, do so in a way that is unceremonious -- just pick her up and gently put her down.

Look at how you respond to your cat's behavior because you might be unknowingly reinforcing negative behavior through attention.

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15 Comments

  • 1. Cha-Cha - 9:26AM on 07/21/08

    I had the problem of my scrappy cat waking me at 5 am, so what I do is put a can of cat food and a bowl on the night stand and when she wakes me I just pour the food in the bowl and roll over and go back to sleep. Now scrappy is happy.

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  • 2. Katt - 9:33AM on 07/21/08

    When my cat was a kitten, she wanted to wake up an hour earlier than me because she thought it was a great time to play. I would wake up to the sound of her bringing toys on to my bed and scampering all over my bedroom. I ignored her, and now she knows that play time doesn't start until I am out of bed... and instead of trying to play, my cat sits on my nightstand to snooze and watch for when I wake up!

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  • 3. DM - 12:13PM on 07/21/08

    I've always used a different tone of voice to praise or correct my cats' behavior...but out of dumb luck rather than planning. They almost always respond to those tones, now. I actually find the "morning wake-up calls" helpful! It serves as a back-up for my alarm clock. Actually, I think it was the alarm clock that started it...they seemed to make the connection that the beeping noise meant I was awake, so they'd come bounding onto the bed and onto me!

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  • 4. cavalialver@att.net - 1:52PM on 07/21/08

    I have one of the most spoiled cat ever and i have me and my husband to thank. she has us wrapped around her paws.Enstead of jumping up on her cat tree i started putting her up there so now... Thats just one thing ,the list is to long. b ut ya know, she makes us laugh every day and we both just love her so.she is a brat but funny!

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  • 5. chris - 7:54PM on 07/21/08

    I have two cats - one male and one female (brother and sister) and have had them since they were 6 weeks old and they are now 2 years old. Male is neutered and female is spayed. Just recently, they have started to be very aggressive towards each other. It seems the male cat annoys the female to the point where there is spitting, growling and very bad fights. I separate them for awhile but the male seems to be insistent on being with her. Any ideas on what is going on and what I can do? Normally, they are both very loving and close to each other. My email addy is sillygal4@yahoo.ca if anyone out there has suggestions.

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  • 6. D. - 11:29AM on 07/22/08

    kitten teething? i have a kitten and she likes to chew on fingertips...anyadvice?

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  • 7. Katt - 11:55AM on 07/22/08

    They have teething toys for kittens.. Unless you want her gnawing on your fingers when she's an adult, the teething toys will prove to be very helpful! Any time she starts teething on your fingers, move your hands out of the way with a stern "No," and hand her a toy. She'll learn that toys and hands are different things.

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  • 8. unclrjohn8 - 7:26AM on 07/24/08

    We have two cats the female is 9 years older than the male that is 6 years old; most of the time they get along great. The male loves to play and the female loves to sleep, but there are times that they are very hostle towards each other. I just separate them most of the time, but that does not always work, any suggestions?

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  • 9. KayKay - 8:38AM on 07/25/08

    i have two cats who are 7 and 6. the 6 year old is a male and adores the 7 year old who is a female. there are times when the male, mainly at night, "attacks" the female and bites the female around the neck. i have been shooting water at him in order to stop him but that hasn't worked. when i spray him with water, i say "no". i try not to give the male any attention after he has "attacked" the female. is there anything else i can do to stop this behavior. thanks

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  • 10. jolehoullier@rocketmail.com - 6:19AM on 07/27/08

    my female Quiche likes to bite around my ankles. I have to keep a goodly supply of bandaids. I spray her with water. Now it's a game. I use a firm toneNO. Suggestions?

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  • 11. xamba333 - 1:41PM on 08/07/08

    My cats think it's fun to play at the bottom of my bed at 5:30a. That's bad enough ,but know one of them goes and scratches at my dresser mirror. What's up with that? I tell her to stop and just as I am about to fall asleep again she starts up. She's also an ankle biter! I give them both loads of attention what can I do?

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  • 12. sandraer - 11:49PM on 08/09/08

    Xamba, she probably likes the feel of the mirror on her nails, but you can apply a cat repellant spray (bitter apple), orange peels or tea tree oil (on a hankie) on the dresser (most cats hate strong sour smells). It will keep her away from the area, reapply every few days. Tin foil is also very annoying to cats, apply it wherever you don't want kitty to go. Water spraying never works, it only makes the cat fear you, and it can cause damage if it gets in their ears, eyes or nose. Cats usually do stuff to hear your voice or get a reaction, like getting you out of bed. Spend more time playing with them before bed. Try to catch her being good and respond openly and lovingly to that. I have trained cats for 20 years and positive reinforcement is always more effective than negative. If you must respond, a loud hand clap or whistle will surprise them, and do it as quickly as possible. They will not understand if you react 5 mins after the fact. They have a short term memory. For example: You get home from work and find a broken glass on the floor. Showing them what they did and then reacting after the fact is useless. They won't make the connection. Don't respond when kitty bites your ankles, she is trying to get attention, either positive or negative, Absolutly no response, don't say ouch, flinch, jump or look at her. Don't talk to her, ignore her for 5 mins. When she realizes you won't react, she will stop biting. Be consistant and persistant. If kitty is attacking the other kitties, it because they feel their social position is being threatened., There is always a "top cat". The lower social status kitty is probably getting more attention because you feel bad she is being picked on and top cat is upset. Top cat needs to have more attetion paid to him. How do you tell who is top cat? Which one always sits the on the highest piece of furniture, or the closest to his owner when other kitties are around. Top kitty shoud always be fed, petted and talked to first. It sounds mean to the other kitties, but social status is very important in the kitty world and they don't mind. It will increase the peace. I have three kitties of my own, with 13 years difference between top cat and the newcomers. My top cat is always dealt with first and it has prevented alot of fighting. Hope this helps

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  • 13. growens03@sbcglobal.net - 1:02PM on 08/11/08

    6 months ago we purchased a puppy. The puppy and my 6 year cat played together often. A few weeks ago I noticed my cat has started using my living room rug as his litter box. I have tried putting him in the litter box, but nothing works. How do I correct this problem without hurting my cat. The smell is awful and does not go away... I don't want to get rid of my cat. The puppy is now house trained. Please help!!!

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  • 14. Timoth Gallagher - 7:01PM on 08/14/08

    I'm guilty for all of the above. (( the aggrivated sucker scratches - when petting her, feeding her 3 am in the morning, and letting her walk on the kitchen counter.)) She does on the other hand, Cinder has a name... part of the family, let me know when my Human Partner, who has severe back problems due to his dehabilitating arthritus... to pay careful attention to him when he tries to stand up to use the restroom or the outside patio. Okay, I agree - I'm a bad pet owner. I've paid of Cinder's Health Insurance, each year - and has her shots and tags updated. She's also registered as a Companion Pet - so she can live with us in the Apartment Complex we just moved into, since May of this year. She's also neutered. - and we keep up to date medical records.

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  • 15. datebar1 - 12:07PM on 09/28/08

    How do I train my cat not to jump on things. Ex. frig, fire place. shelves.

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